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Why Do So Many Powerful People Think The Rules Don't Apply To Them?
5/19/2011 2:00:00 PM

The list of famous politicians who were caught up in outrageous sex scandals includes: Bill Clinton, John Edwards, Mark Sanford, David Vitter, Gary Hart, Elliot Spitzer, Gary Condit, Larry Craig and just this week the list got longer with two freshmen newcomers: Dominique Strauss-Kahn and, of course, the freshman newcomer, Arnold Schwarzenegger.


What's going on with these men? What could possibly be going through their heads? With so much publicity, so much security, so much media and with so much to lose -- why do they take the chance? What prompts them to engage in such appalling behavior, usually spanning several years? Why do they take such precarious chances when they could lose it all if they get caught?


Rich, famous and powerful figures learn early in the game that the rules really do not apply to them. They have their own separate toolbox that ordinary people do not possess. They wear the most expensive clothes and drive the most expensive cars. They have their own security and their own "yes" men. And of course, they have the most powerful tool of all, money.


Their behavior is different from the ordinary person, as well. When they speak folks stop and listen, when they want something, handlers are there to get it and when they break the rules an army of folks cover the tracks or take the fall. They are, undoubtedly, under the belief that if they get caught doing something they shouldn't, their power will surely bail them out.


It is often said that narcissism begets power but the reverse is true as well. The mantra of the powerful? "I want, what I want, when I want it and I will do whatever it takes to get it”. There's also the mindset that says, "too bad if you get in my way -- you lose!"


Risky, aggressive behavior can often propel success. It is not by accident that politicians, CEO's and celebrities are usually thrill seekers and risk takers. Physically, studies have shown that the brain chemistry is different in powerful politicians, leading to sensation seeking and risky behavior. They have lower levels of the brain chemical monoamine oxidasse -A, which means they have higher highs when they engage in risky behavior and that they get bored much more easily than the norm.


So these are the guys who go for it and often end up being very successful. Notice, we rarely hear about the ones who fail and there are many more of those! But what they have in common, what they crave, is the thrill of that risky behavior and immediate gratification. In fact, they thrive on it. In business, politics and yes, sex.


Also, success and winning raise the testosterone level, which has been tested in athletes, performers and politicians. This in turn, leads to not only more success but also to a higher sex drive.

 

All you have to do is look at photos of our politicians in power and featured in celebrity magazines. There's the pose, as I like to call it. In fact, there's a name for these poses. They're called the "Power Positions," hand on hips, legs spread a bit, chest out and shoulders squared. In other words, spreading your body out. 


It doesn't hurt, either, that these guys already have a healthy dose of testosterone, although when striking the pose, studies indicate that testosterone levels actually increases even more. Interestingly, this link to testosterone could explain why woman rarely behave in this manner.


So as we watch yet another politician fall from grace, remember that one of the reasons they are so powerful is that we perceive them to be powerful and because of this we often turn a blind eye to the behavioral red flags that are waving. 


Some of us will take chances, while others will not. Sometimes these chances pay-off with success but more often not. 


But the thing to remember is that no one is above reproach, no matter how much you have or how powerful you are. The Power Game can be a dangerous game, seductive and enticing leaving the winners feeling almost invulnerable and wanting more risk and more thrills. 


This said, clearly, it's only a matter of time before we see yet another politician's name added to the dreaded sex scandal list.  FoxNews.com/opinion


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26 Comments
5/19/2011 2:24:04 PM
Comments : I donot agree with your article called: Why Do So Many Powerful People Think the Rules Don't Apply to Them?
The problem is spiritual. It is one of good versus evil. Right and wrong. Morals and lack of morals. When it comes to choices we can either make a good choice or a bad choice. We make our decision in freedom to do this or NOT to do that. As one who has had experience is spiritual matters personally, and who has chosen to do bad things too many times, but who also struggles to do good, I think I know first hand the battle people, you, me, others go through. I do believe that if one is prone to constantly doing bad things one opens oneself more to demons affecting their behavior, or we just continue down making bad decisions with demons no doubt clapping and cheering us along. You may not believe in demons which is why you probably do not discuss the moral aspect of this man's behavior, but I am here to tell you that demons do exists and God does too. What the IMF chiief is experiencing is a moral choice to do evil or to do good. Every act we make is a moral choice and it has consequences for good or for ill. There is no escape from that reality. For one living an inmoral life they make themselves more prone to being influenced by evil spirits. I have read hundreds of cases on exorcism and his pattern follows the norm. So while your article is well intentioned in attempting to come up with an answer that might motivate his behavior, I believe you are way off the fundalmentals. I just wanted to let you know. However, I know these days people chose not to believe the things I speak of, but nonetheless it does not dismiss their reality try as we might to ignore this reality. We'll find out out death what I say is truth, now that I can confidently foretell. Kindest regards, Clay
5/19/2011 6:25:47 PM
I would have to say that social change, in the form of commercialization of sex through the porn industry is responsible. Sex is encouraged through their publications and they are not regulated for what they publish in them. Leading them to boys and men to think that this is how they would like their sex lives to be.They have taken something that should remain a spiritual encounter between two people and turned it into recreational activity with drugs. Both of these industries are big in Hollywood. I never could understand why the Government came down hard on the Cigarette companies for comericalizing Joe Camel to children for Cigarettes on billboards. I always drove the 60/91 freeways in Riverside, California for my kids to view a huge Billboard for a StripClub with a woman dressed in Lingerie.
DDA
5/19/2011 11:24:21 PM
I do not engage in political or religious discussions on this forum, Clay -- that is not the purpose. Many things come into play, but ultimately we must question why people who spend decades grooming themselves for success in the end throw it all away, all while the spotlight shines on them. They talk the talk but in the end cannot walk the walk.
DDA
5/20/2011 4:52:56 PM
Social change may play a role, but this has been going on as long as there have been powerful people, in other words, always. Although in the past it was hush-hush, that is no longer the case. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Sherry.
5/20/2011 8:33:51 PM
Powerful and/or famous people of any genre are surrounded by suck-ups and handlers and fans, and all they hear is how great they are -- and sometimes they are really really great. I saw it firsthand working with rockers. Their reality becomes distorted. Some of them are grateful for anyone who will offer them honest feedback because on some level, most of them know they're being catered to. But after so long of so many people singing their praises, it's hard not to start believing it all.

I still think the problem can be distilled down to one main thing: A big percentage of men will if they can, and highly visible powerful men of every ilk can. If they are put into a situation where their visibility and status has taken a significant step up, they will "trade up" at least or simply play the limitless field until they tire of it 20 years from then. In my 20 years of being around rockers, who I adore, by the way, but never once considered marrying, the closest I ever saw one to being faithful was one who wouldn't have sexual affairs but saw nothing wrong with having an intense emotional affair with a friend of mine. The rule of the road if they were married or supposed to be committed was no actual intercourse but everything else goes. To them, this was as virtuous as they were going to get. It's hard for women to accept that sometimes men really are so compartmentalized that they truly may themselves believe having affairs has nothing to do with their wife, but some of them really believe that. Women may come to understand it in the abstract, but it is never going to fly on an emotional level, because we want back as good as we give, and we give it all.
5/21/2011 11:38:44 PM
Psychopaths, sociopaths, addicts. I'm not familiar with all the cases mentioned. Also, it's important to look at each case separately. They are similar, but different. In Spitzer's case, he had issues with his own father. Some intense feelings of failure, not measuring up, no matter his professional accomplishments. Energy misdirected. Same with Tiger Woods. In Arnold S. case, the woman he chose makes sense. An employee/servant who apparently idolized him. His wife had every indication as to his behavior at the time. He admitted to "bad behavior" and other women complained 10 years ago. She buried it in her mind. As did we all. Signs were there. I'm harsh with the categorization of these men, just think what it takes, the deception and denial to oneself and others to accomplish these acts. It's a whole category, that plays out in society at large. Is it so difficult to believe the head of a financial institution committed a sexual assault? Look at prior complaints or opinions. What's a little stunning is we allow this behavior. We dismiss it. We explain it away. We rational "lies" it. It becomes acceptable, excusable, the norm. And these people make the rules. they are rich enough so that the rules don't apply to them. So when they are functioning at that level, acting for themselves, no matter the destruction the leave in their wake, they deserve the title of sociopaths. What does it say about us who promote them to power positions. Are we absolving our own consciences or projecting what we want our lives to be like? Are they just reflections of our society? Is it the money and power that allows them to act like that, or did they just bring out the person already there.
5/22/2011 6:09:37 AM
Hi Dr Dale - I don't think it is only "powerful" people who think the rules don't apply to them. It is true they often feel they are above the rules but I have seen this trait in "local heroes" too. For example, the football hero who gets special help to make the grades or the pretty girl who flirts to get her way (even if illegal or morally wrong). When their talent and/or looks fade and they have to play by the rules, they often snap. What do you think?
DDA
5/23/2011 1:08:07 PM
Well put, Lola.
DDA
5/23/2011 1:08:44 PM
The maid was infatuated with the Kennedys, Leah. She wanted to live as closely to them as Maria did, which meant sleeping with her husband. Warped thinking to be sure.
DDA
5/23/2011 1:09:28 PM
True, Allison, there's no limit as to who puts it on the line. But, these men have way more to lose than a football hero trying to make a grade. The whole world watches yet they think they're too powerful to get caught.
5/23/2011 2:51:01 PM
We also have to remember that it is well known people who garner enough gossip to get publicly caught cheating. It's true smalltime local celebrities, such as athletes or local musicians, do the same cheating, but they are more easily caught since they are more tied to one locale, and they don't necessarily suffer public embarrassment over it when they are, and their activities may be well known within their circle. I would say from personal experience that anyone who is within the close circle of these people understands what is going on unless they have simply chosen to have blinders on or are stubbornly naive. Bandmates and sports teammates will cover for each other religiously, and I don't think most women understand how organized and universal this phenomenon of men covering for cheating men is. It's like a coda.

Visits to athletes and musicians on the road are carefully filtered by their management and roadies. No one just saunters into the hotel or onto the bus without first being delayed by the handlers, which gives them time to get anyone out of the room they may not want the wife/girlfriend to see. These handlers, in fairness, work for both good and evil, in that they may also provide a beard to keep fans at arm's length in a diplomatic manner for those who aren't into wholesale fan farming or are trying to avoid certain fans. But these same handlers go pluck the star's choice of random women out of an audience to bring backstage on a regular basis. These men have a limitless smorgasboard to choose from every single day, every day of the year. And nearly all of the ones I ever met took advantage of it.

Young women, bless their good hearts, harbor a fairytale belief that once this serial cheater meets the "right one," that he will realize she is the "only one for him" and magically lose interest in other women. No one can talk a young woman out of that belief. It's something each one has to learn for themselves, and it's a sad day when they eventually do, but it's better than going through life with blinders on and repeating the same mistakes over and over.
5/23/2011 9:56:00 PM
I think it is sad for the whole family. The spotlight is mostly on Arnold when there was 1 other adult, involved in this situation and a child it was reported that this woman had threatened to go public, and When Arnold went public, She was telling the press that her ex husband is the father. She may have been using the child to blackmail Arnold. It is just sad for the child because now he needs to know the truth that his own mother was keeping from him. My prayres go out too both families. God doesn't give you what you can't Handle. Arnold is very resillent, he will bounce back. If President Clinton overcome o the obstacle so can he. They are both very Smart, and Public Business men.
DDA
5/25/2011 10:42:13 AM
Sure, Lola. The rock stars, celebrities and sports heroes have a reputation for this behavior. However, they're not forming the laws of the country touting the importance of family, responsibility and the sanctity of marriage. It’s the hypocrisy that is the biggest issue for those in politics.
DDA
5/25/2011 10:42:40 AM
Thanks for adding your thoughts, Sherry
6/12/2011 8:45:18 PM
Apologize for reading your comment so late, Dr. Archer. Yes, the hypocrisy is a big issue. At least with rockers, they're blatantly chosen an alternative lifestyle and aren't professing to be anything but what they are. Politicians and religious leaders selling themselves on convention, it's low. I guess I've always been jaded because I never really thought all those presidents and congressmen weren't out wh**ing. I've just seen too much. From what I can tell, providing prostitutes for clients and benefactors is the 13th floor of many business industries and in politics, and it's been going on as long as I've been an adult, and probably centuries before that. A label provided one to an old BF of mine I worked with, and he was too naive to realize she was a pro until months later of trying to date her.

Funny quick story: In the eighties, I had only a lunch hour to get my nails done for an event right after work. So I looked in the Yellow Pages for someone to do my nails nearby to save time. I went to the 3rd floor of a 6-story office building that housed dentists, doctors, insurance companies, etc., after making an appointment. When I got there, I asked for a French manicure (you know, the white tips), but no one knew what it was or had the polish to do it. The space didn't look like a salon, the space being divided by cubicle walls. The girls didn't look like they were dressed for doing a manicure either. Pretty soon a man came in and vanished behind a (thin) cubicle wall. I was left sitting waiting while the prostitutes figured out what to do with me. Once I got the picture, I was so disgusted that I sat there stubbornly and held out as long as I could before leaving, because I was thinking, Right here in my neighborhood, wives are sending their husbands off to work in this building, and they have no idea the 3rd floor is a brothel. Nice.
DDA
6/13/2011 5:28:59 PM
You have a slew of interesting stories, don't you Lola?! Even I know what a French manicure is; did you ever get one before your event?
6/13/2011 7:40:09 PM
No. About 10 years later, I visited a dentist in the building for teeth whitening and mentioned discovering the 3rd floor brothel a decade earlier, and he looked very uncomfortable.
DDA
6/14/2011 12:21:45 PM
Funny, Lola. No French manicure, but hopefully some very healthy, white teeth.
7/17/2011 12:01:16 AM
Because they think that their position of power lets them do as they please. Their narcissism is really irritating
DDA
7/18/2011 3:39:29 PM
Very irritating, indeed, Jordan.
8/6/2011 5:07:35 AM
It's no doubt all these 'powerfuls' who break the law and have no morals will be punished some way, and even one person's condemnation is enough I think. Of course they have no shame in order to feel embarrassed for their actions, but even that is humiliating. God is watching above all, and He is powerful enough to give them a slap, at any time...

Also, the existence of 'evil' will always make 'good people' better. Because they will want to completely be at the opposite direction and will declare it with more zeal, as it will be needed! So, we can use everything dreadful we see, however sad, for our (spiritual, therefore actual) benefit.

Once, I was invited to 'a club' after an evening out with some friends in London. They said 'let's take marcia there, so we’ll have a laugh'. I refused, as I didn’t know what we were going to see, and already felt uncomfortable by their look. I wanted to leave and say goodnight. But finally they insisted, and they drove me all the way, and said 'hey, if you don’t want to stay with us, you can leave, just do us the favor to go in, because some other friends are already in there, and they are waiting for us. We'll go just to find their table, say hello, and then we’ll leave immediately, I promise you'. So, I said all right, let’s see where everyone wants to go. We were at the door of the club and there was a policeman. He was warning everyone at the door 'tonight there is a strip show inside the restaurant, so don't go in if you disapprove’. Apparently, few Fridays that restaurant had lap-dancers… I admired the fact there was a policeman at the door to warn me!! He was my hero for that moment!!

However my friends insisted and made a big fuss, why am I not going in. I was not going in, and people were stopping and looking at us weirdly. I stared from the door and there was already a half-naked pole dancer. She was looking, knowing I was making a fuss, and I could see her eyes, staring at mine, like frozen, and so sad. What she saw: a young lady (me), dressed in fur and jewellery, who disapproved of what is happening inside, looking at her with pity. I saw it in her eyes, she was ready to cry. She looked embarrassed, sad for her life, and for what she was doing. Deriving from the fact that another girl, who was same age as her, but dressed (!) was standing at the other end, disgusted to go in. I will always remember that incident… Since then, I am not angry at them, as I used to be, I am only pitiful. Later I had a chance to mention the incident to my pastor and he said ‘you have no authority to condemn anyone, only God has, you don’t know what made them end up in there, only feel sorry for them, good for you to refuse going, but also good for you to know what is happening, no matter how ugly’.

Surely the chain restaurant’s owner, is one of the ‘powerful, bad guys’. Already next day, I told the incident to many friends, who told others, and the story travelled fast! They all said they will never go to this restaurant, not even on the other nights, when it was a ‘normal restaurant’. I created a few followers, and some bad publicity for the restaurant!! Oh yes!! :-)
DDA
8/9/2011 7:30:01 PM
I agree with your pastor on this one Marcia: Never condemn another unless you have walked a mile in their shoes.
8/10/2011 8:05:49 AM
Me too now.. and it's good enough for me that I didn't ever have to be in their shoes! The look of that woman caused me some feelings I didn't expect back then. I even felt quilty, for causing her to feel quilty... She already was where she was. No point to show my detest. But I was provoked to, as my... 'friends' insisted I go in, without respecting my wish.
8/10/2011 6:24:32 PM
And shall I say what happenned till the end, because my 'friends' accused me of making a fuss, which was embarassing for them, and they actually managed to drag me in...! I was so angry, they literally took me by the hand and led me to the table, promising me 'we won't stay'. So they found the other 2 people who were inside, and they told me 'sit facing the wall, so you will not see anything'. I sat facing the wall, but I was flaming inside, feeling very violated and kept saying 'but I am leaving'. Then a plate of salmon was instantly brought in front of me. I said 'who ordered for me? I said 100 times I am leaving'. Of course I didn't touch it. It would be disgusting to eat in there. They seemed concerned about my attitude, and one said 'why are you acting so extreme about that place? Can't you see, women are in here dining as well'. I said 'I am offended this place exists, because one day, this is where my husband will be found, and this will be the reason for me leaving him. All these men in here, have a wife at home'. Then he said 'I see, you have a point'.

Behind me the lap dance was taking place. Then suddenly the wall I was facing... opened, like a window and a huge screen appeared from inside the wall! Where the details of the lap dancers were magnified 10 times...! That was it, I had to either leave or break something! Which of course I couldn't allow myself to do...although it might have placed me in the news the next day...! :-)

I stood up and left. Went out, grabbed a taxi and dissappeared. What I should have done from the beginning. The next morning, they all rang me apologising. But it was too late. I lost my respect for
them. It was all my fault, I should have been strong enough to refuse immediately something I don't like. I paid by extending all of my tolerance in an effort to please others! Poor little marcia...
DDA
8/16/2011 10:42:18 AM
I'm sorry they put you in such an uncomfortable position. Lesson learned, however: It's one way to learn to say "No" and follow through with it.
8/19/2011 5:38:14 PM
Success might be earned more rapidly by saying no, than by saying yes. That, combined to 'being true to ourselves', makes a tall-glassed coctail to elegant, sheer advancement...
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