Dear Laquaenta,

If the house is in his name, there is nothing you can do; it's his house, even if you put all your money into the place. What you need is legal advice first. Speak with an attorney. The initial consultation is usually free, and let him know your situation. You need to know your options first and they may differ depending on your state.

After that, it’s time for a conversation. At the least he will owe you child support. Let him know that you spoke with a lawyer and know your rights. Then you have to decide if you want to stay. My advice is that you would be better off without him. He’s verbally abusive and he wants to kick you out for talking to another guy?

My suggestion is that you go home to your parents until you figure out what you want. This will let him know that you can stand on your own. If you have no family, go to a women's shelter. 

No one said it's easy to leave, because usually it's not. It takes plenty of guts and effort, but once you're out of that environment you will feel so much better. And it will be a much better environment for your child, who needs to be your main concern.

After you’ve had some time away, then if you both want to get back together, make some new rules.  Most importantly, no screaming and name calling. If he can do that then perhaps you have a chance to make it work, if not, then you must move on. 

Read similar stories from women whose boyfriends had anger issues, like "How Can I Help My Boyfriend?" and "Amber Is Jealous Over Her Ex's New Girlfriend" and see my advice about how to move on.

Look, Laquaenta, I know you love your child, and I know you love what your family could be, but you have a bully for a boyfriend. You do not need to be treated like this, and if you stay and things remain the same, you are in essence teaching your child that this is how mommies and daddies treat each other. That's just wrong. 

Make this a learning situation, and take everything you can from this experience. I wish you both well.

Dr. Archer